In light of Alzheimer’s and Brain Awareness Month, we turned to the Arkansas chapter of the Alzheimer’s Association to learn how to talk to loved ones about memory loss and cognitive decline. It’s a conversation no family wants to have, but it’s an extremely important one.
Close family members are typically the first to notice memory issues or cognitive problems, but they are often hesitant to say something. A survey released by the Alzheimer’s Association reveals that nearly nine in 10 Americans experiencing memory loss, thinking problems or other symptoms of cognitive decline would want others to tell them and share their concerns. However, nearly three out of four Americans say talking to a close family member about those same topics would be challenging for them, and understandably so.
If this is a conversation you need to have, here are a few tips and considerations from the Arkansas chapter of the Alzheimer’s Association:
- Have the conversation as early as possible. Addressing memory or cognition problems early offers an opportunity to identify the cause and take action before a crisis situation occurs.
- Think about who is best suited to initiate the conversation. If there is a family member, a close friend or a trusted advisor who holds sway, include them in the conversation.
- Practice conversation starters. Be thoughtful in your approach. For example, consider an open-ended question such as, “I’ve noticed a few changes in your behavior lately, and I wanted to see if you’ve noticed these changes as well.” or “How have you been feeling lately? You haven’t seemed like yourself.”
- If needed, have multiple conversations. Despite your best intentions, a family member may not be open to discussing memory or cognitive concerns. They may get angry, upset, defensive or simply refuse to talk about it. Unless it’s a crisis situation, don’t force the conversation. Take a step back, regroup and revisit the subject in a week or two. If they still refuse to get help, consult their physician or the Arkansas chapter of the Alzheimer’s Association for strategies that may help.
For more info and support, head to the Arkansas chapter of the Alzheimer’s Association website.